Being transformed day by day

Musings from the heart

I am not your lifesaver.

You speak of men’s need to be saved as if your lives depended on us. You write of how every little compliment, every encouragement, every smile and ever kind act of virtue we do, lighten up your day and affect your very being.

It does flatter us women, to know that we are needed and thought about; to know that we are appreciated for how God created us and how He’s been working in us. It especially flatters us women, to know that we somehow save you from your daily troubles because the cliché was that our kind always needed saving.

Just one question, what do you need saving from?

It scares me to think that we sometimes become your source of strength. Sure, God created us to be ezer kenegdos—helpers against you, to correspond to your strengths and responsibilities. However, when this goes to the extreme, it alarms me to think that I have been your source of encouragement.

What if we commit mistakes? What if we disappoint you? What shall happen? Shall you move on and keep a straight face and harden your spirit again and outwardly say ‘I am strong’? Shall it crumble your world? That shouldn’t be the case.

Your REAL lifesaver is God. We women, are mere instruments of His grace and his love. We should not be your source of strength. Sure, perhaps we do inspire you in one way or another, but then again, bring it back to God. He IS the one you should focus on.

posted by aLotSkI @ 6:22 PM